"Conceit is a queer disease, it makes everyone sick except the person who has it" - Anonymous
Every little girl dream of their prince charming, from fairy tales, Barbie and ken or anything that influences them knowing that when they grew up enough, they’ll have their own romance. Well, fairy tales are fiction- just impossible; it’s not true, but the love story in it? It could be true.
In a non-fairy tale world we’re living in, girls, call a “Prince Charming” as “Mr. Right”. If you knew that you finally found the right man, then he is the one worth marrying. Well as for my twisted mind, if you had met a “Prince Charming” it doesn’t automatically mean he’s the “Mr. Right” right?
So ”What is your ideal man?”, or ”What is your type?” I honestly can’t even answer it even if I asked it myself. Then I took some time in what will my mind can thought about it. I know I haven’t met any yet as thinking about it is just too silly, ofcourse I wasn’t EVER even close marrying someone at 21. LOL
To the fact that the question may be too difficult for most of women, I started to what the society had set for the most common standards. And it wasn’t a surprise that I’m about to come up a checklist here, don’t judge in the facts, just allow me to be straight to the point to make it simpler.
Attractive – handsome, tall, nice body
Intelligent – well educated, successful
Rich – high paying career, has more than enough assets and money
Gentleman – polite/kind, god fearing/religious, decent, honest.
I think that would be just the most basic. If I will choose only one I’ll choose the gentleman. Because it’s not a character, but a quality. But honestly, I can still tolerate even if he’s not.
I’m not saying that all qualities mentioned above can’t possibly possessed by one; Or that the additional qualities that a girl have in mind like funny, humble, passionate, loyal, sweet, adventurous, strong and many else more can’t be achieved all at once. In fact, there’s many of them in real life, maybe a colleague, classmate, friend, neighbor or you had been probably lucky enough before to date one.
But if he’s really perfect, he must have been really humble to be born having all those qualities isn’t it? Well, you must have been thought about this: It's easy to be humble when you're doing well in life. If the guy thinks he’s doing well compared to everyone else (nope), then what are the things that he can be humble about?
"The world tolerates conceit from those who are successful, but not from anybody else." - John Blake
These kinds of “ideal man” are many, and knew unconsciously you still have to be deserving enough to have one. As human, they tend to do better in choosing a partner, just like everyone else us here. They have an idealized vision that they try to superimpose on a woman, who could blame them? It’s in nature. I’m not saying I’m right but if you don’t agree, then don’t judge my answer.
Describe your ideal man.
It’s not always official. I know everyone can make any kind of exceptions when it comes to the person they use to like. So it makes the ideal man for me is real humble and proud of something that he is; someone who puts the woman he cherishes on a pedestal and certainly not a perfect man to the extent of he’s seeking another perfect girl too haha.
Conceit is the only thing that separates the possibility of a "Prince Charming" to the "Right"
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"The greatest of faults, I should say, is to be conscious of none." Thomas Carlyle
And LOVE may not be enough, but it should have always been the priority whether w/ list or w/o list of likes.
We are blessed enough to feel it every day it’s just there to be found. The world is in equilibrium it’s perfectly balanced. Even the simplest things can’t always be positive without it’s contrary- negative. A single thing wouldn’t be in our awareness without its opposite. Like yin and yang; sunrise and sunset; bright and dark; night and day; hot and cold; good and bad; short and tall. Etc. Just like our life.
while. These trials are only to test your faith, to show that it is strong and pure. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold -- and your faith is far more precious to God than mere gold. So if your faith remains strong after being tried by fiery trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world. You love him even though you have never seen him. Though you do not see him, you trust him; and even now you are happy with a glorious, inexpressible joy. (New Living Translation)