Right?

"Conceit is a queer disease, it makes everyone sick except the person who has it" - Anonymous

Every little girl dream of their prince charming, from fairy tales, Barbie and ken or anything that influences them knowing that when they grew up enough, they’ll have their own romance. Well, fairy tales are fiction- just impossible; it’s not true, but the love story in it? It could be true.

In a non-fairy tale world we’re living in, girls, call a “Prince Charming” as “Mr. Right”. If you knew that you finally found the right man, then he is the one worth marrying. Well as for my twisted mind, if you had met a “Prince Charming” it doesn’t automatically mean he’s the “Mr. Right” right?

So ”What is your ideal man?”, or ”What is your type?” I honestly can’t even answer it even if I asked it myself. Then I took some time in what will my mind can thought about it. I know I haven’t met any yet as thinking about it is just too silly, ofcourse I wasn’t EVER even close marrying someone at 21. LOL

To the fact that the question may be too difficult for most of women, I started to what the society had set for the most common standards. And it wasn’t a surprise that I’m about to come up a checklist here, don’t judge in the facts, just allow me to be straight to the point to make it simpler.

Attractive – handsome, tall, nice body

Intelligent – well educated, successful

Rich – high paying career, has more than enough assets and money

Gentleman – polite/kind, god fearing/religious, decent, honest.

I think that would be just the most basic. If I will choose only one I’ll choose the gentleman. Because it’s not a character, but a quality. But honestly, I can still tolerate even if he’s not.

I’m not saying that all qualities mentioned above can’t possibly possessed by one; Or that the additional qualities that a girl have in mind like funny, humble, passionate, loyal, sweet, adventurous, strong and many else more can’t be achieved all at once. In fact, there’s many of them in real life, maybe a colleague, classmate, friend, neighbor or you had been probably lucky enough before to date one.

But if he’s really perfect, he must have been really humble to be born having all those qualities isn’t it? Well, you must have been thought about this: It's easy to be humble when you're doing well in life. If the guy thinks he’s doing well compared to everyone else (nope), then what are the things that he can be humble about?

"The world tolerates conceit from those who are successful, but not from anybody else." - John Blake

These kinds of “ideal man” are many, and knew unconsciously you still have to be deserving enough to have one. As human, they tend to do better in choosing a partner, just like everyone else us here. They have an idealized vision that they try to superimpose on a woman, who could blame them? It’s in nature. I’m not saying I’m right but if you don’t agree, then don’t judge my answer.

Describe your ideal man.

It’s not always official. I know everyone can make any kind of exceptions when it comes to the person they use to like. So it makes the ideal man for me is real humble and proud of something that he is; someone who puts the woman he cherishes on a pedestal and certainly not a perfect man to the extent of he’s seeking another perfect girl too haha.  

Conceit is the only thing that separates the possibility of a "Prince Charming" to the "Right"
one.

"The greatest of faults, I should say, is to be conscious of none." Thomas Carlyle

And LOVE may not be enough, but it should have always been the priority whether w/ list or w/o list of likes.

 

Los Banos Laguna, Philippines

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Psalm 62:6, 1 Peter 1:6-8

I frequently find myself reading bible, seeking for perfect verses to remind me of my faith. It is one way to remind me of myself all the promises of God, whether I’m in a good mood or not, it never fails me to feel better simply because I believe in him.

"Believe - to accept something as true, genuine, or real" (Merriam Webster) 

But people use to learn; we age up critically, searching for reasons or explanation, see the world and witness what else is there. Nowadays being a logical thinker is the common way to be practical, and I can’t deny, it is how I decide for everyday life.

But if most people are such a rational thinker (to see is to believe) why do we have such faith?

"Faith - acceptance of that which we imagine to be true, that which we cannot prove.” (Dan Brown)

We are blessed enough to feel it every day it’s just there to be found. The world is in equilibrium it’s perfectly balanced. Even the simplest things can’t always be positive without it’s contrary- negative. A single thing wouldn’t be in our awareness without its opposite. Like yin and yang; sunrise and sunset; bright and dark; night and day; hot and cold; good and bad; short and tall. Etc. Just like our life.

In my 21yrs of existence, I know I still didn’t even have a clue about life. But one thing I’m certain is, there’s ups and downs. There are happy days and there are unfulfilled days. It can’t only be forever down or forever happy, because if you think you have been all the time in one side then you wouldn’t even know which side you're really at.

I could say that contented and faithful people may be the happiest. Why? Because they have been down before; they go through it, had seen the difference; eventually acquiring more and more strength as the experiences gone by, that had lead their mind for awareness to appreciation.

So everytime I felt something isn’t right, sad or incompetent, etc. at the moment, I face to it. I have the strength and not to mind to go through trials for once in awhile. I pray and send him all my gratitude, because with it, I can see things fairly; it just simply means I’ve been blessed before and I’ll be blessed even more.

Psalm 62:6 - For he is my God and my saviour: he is my helper, I shall not be moved (Douay-Rheims Bible)


1 Peter 1:6-8 - So be truly glad! There is wonderful joy ahead, even though it is necessary for you to endure many trials for a while. These trials are only to test your faith, to show that it is strong and pure. It is being tested as fire tests and purifies gold -- and your faith is far more precious to God than mere gold. So if your faith remains strong after being tried by fiery trials, it will bring you much praise and glory and honor on the day when Jesus Christ is revealed to the whole world. You love him even though you have never seen him. Though you do not see him, you trust him; and even now you are happy with a glorious, inexpressible joy. (New Living Translation)

one's due

Do not let your fire go out, spark by irreplaceable spark, in the hopeless swamps of the approximate, the not-quite, the not-yet, the not-at-all. Do not let the hero in your soul perish in lonely frustration for the life you deserved, but have never been able to reach. Check your road and the nature of your battle. The world you desired can be won. It exists, it is real, it is possible, it is yours. - Ayn Rand

entering adulthood

Before this year started, my plans for myself totally shifted. The kinds of decisions I thought I’ll always make when I already had a chance. Thank God, I experienced those chances as what I had slightly predicted few years back. But none of those didn’t quite match, in the way I expected how overwhelming it can be.

Not because I didn’t deliver the actions rightly, I did, but not as motivated as I could get. By the time given, I realized that my choices/objectives (dreams is what the most think of it) before are mostly based only for the comfort of the present. It’s like being selfish for yourself. They say “don’t be too hard on yourself” well, you can be pretty sure of that I’m NOT. I can say I did achieve just exactly the same thing even THOUGH, others worked HARDER for it.

My GOALS when I was 5 years younger are strictly straight. I did believe I’m not one of those who will change personal passion in the middle of college. I didn't and its too blissful for a teenage girl who already did figured out her directions in the future THAT EARLY, considering ONLY the consoles of the current situations.  The good term to describe it is “incorrigible”. I thought I already realistically figured out how things will be.

But things changed. My perceptions, reasons, environments, opportunities – all of these and my CRITERION with it, strikes at me significantly and made me think; with all the faith and possibilities in the world, I could be better than what I had prefer for myself before. After all I had learned, I am thoroughly distinct, this time I WANT MORE.

Now I’ve decided to base my decisions on my future no matter how my present will cost me, I am more than willing to sacrifice all the possible comfort I could get now, as long as It will contribute efficiently well in my future.

Not really sure if it’s right and applicable for everybody but, this is just me more than willing, in control and dedicated to go exactly wherever I wanted to be in life. Now, for the first time, I have a chance to be a little difficult for myself. And it just happen this is the best place in someone's life where it could be most applicable.